What attracted you to joining abob in London?
Ken Hinds age 55 Chair of Haringey’s Independent Stop and Search Monitoring Group
How did you know about abob?
“Royston (who has been in abob for a few years) told me about the BTH weekend but I had no idea about the group. I was very apprehensive especially about camping; I’m a 5 star sort of man. It was like a blind date, I had to have blind faith.”Read more
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“I did think at the beginning, what have I let myself in for? But as soon as it started and we had a circle, I felt safe and that I wasn’t going to be judged here. What came up for me the most was unexpressed grief around my mum dying seven years ago at the age of 53. I used to be in the army, I’m not used to discussing my feelings and this grief had manifested itself in my life as anger and bitterness. My ten year relationship broke down during this time too.
On this weekend, I had time to think about how I’d been to other people. How I’d hurt people. It made me think about my work in a construction company that operates in the City, and how we are towards women.Read more
What brought you to the London group?
“I knew Royston from the Peckham Black Father’s and Manday groups. He told me about this rites of passage weekend for mentors and I was immediately interested. In Africa, young men experience rites of passage but not in Europe. I feel passionately about the need for rites of passage with young men here in London.”Read more
Finbarr Dooher, 29, works in a one-to-one capacity with young men (13-19) who are involved with patterns of violence at Act For Change. Following the Time to Change “Man Enough” Project run by abandofbrothers, he has joined the abob community and is now supporting young men in Haringey.