aBandOfBrothers Haringey

Haringey abandofbrothers is the latest cohort group to come together. We seek to make a significant difference to the lives of young men in London.

For almost three years, we have been meeting in Haringey on Tuesday evenings whatever the weather! Over forty older men are involved and willing to mentor and support the young men.
We have been building partnership and relationship with each other, we have danced with each other’s emotions and as a result, we have grown as a community group. This has happened because of the weekly community meetings where the sharing circle is the central structure.

We are looking to create partnerships in the borough and wider London community with organisations which already include THFC (Tottenham FC), MacUK (for young people), F2F (Father2Father) and NCBI (National Coalition-Building Institute).

Our first Quest happened in October 2015 and we continue to meet with these young men in our weekly sharing circles, and supporting their changes. Our work is defined by rites of passage but it also includes supporting them emotionally, philosophically as well as practically in terms of help, for instance, with work possibilities as the young men are often unemployed.
We are hopeful, committed, skilled and caring – we will make the difference to young men in Haringey.

Sebastien Adamczyk

Kids Company; key worker; child counsellor; Forest School Leader; men’s circle facilitator

What attracted you to joining abob in London?

“I’ve been promoting the idea of men working with boys in Kids Co for the past two years. I facilitate a Fathers and Sons group, with the aim to create a space where men, fathers and boys can support each other and first of all spend some time together.

Ken Hinds

Ken Hinds age 55 Chair of Haringey’s Independent Stop and Search Monitoring Group

How did you know about abob?

“Royston (who has been in abob for a few years) told me about the BTH weekend but I had no idea about the group. I was very apprehensive especially about camping; I’m a 5 star sort of man. It was like a blind date, I had to have blind faith.”

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Morgan Stacey

33 project Manager

“I did think at the beginning, what have I let myself in for? But as soon as it started and we had a circle, I felt safe and that I wasn’t going to be judged here.  What came up for me the most was unexpressed grief around my mum dying seven years ago at the age of 53. I used to be in the army, I’m not used to discussing my feelings and this grief had manifested itself in my life as anger and bitterness. My ten year relationship broke down during this time too.

On this weekend, I had time to think about how I’d been to other people. How I’d hurt people. It made me think about my work in a construction company that operates in the City, and how we are towards women.

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Errol Murphy

What brought you to the London group?

“I knew Royston from the Peckham Black Father’s and Manday groups. He told me about this rites of passage weekend for mentors and I was immediately interested. In Africa, young men experience rites of passage but not in Europe. I feel passionately about the need for rites of passage with young men here in London.”

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Finbarr Dooher

Finbarr Dooher, 29, works in a one-to-one capacity with young men (13-19) who are involved with patterns of violence at Act For Change. Following the Time to Change “Man Enough” Project run by abandofbrothers, he has joined the abob community and is now supporting young men in Haringey.

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