Like all charities, we have a board of Trustees who oversee the organisation
Alex Bailey (Chair)
Following a career as a commercial lawyer in the City of London, in consultancy and then “Big Charity” Alex is currently the Chief Executive of two local authorities. He has been a long term keen community activist with involvement in advice agencies, learning disability charities and a range of youth and sports activities over a number of years. Currently he is Vice President of a large Credit Union and has chaired abandofbrothers for over 3 years.
Alex has two teenage sons (currently transitioning to full adulthood) and recognises the vital role that other mature men can have in assisting in transition. He believes it is important for all young men to be able to choose to have such guidance and support and believes that abandofbrothers has drawn from ancient tradition, added some very contemporary approaches to create something potentially of value to all young men. He is convinced of the worth of taking this approach to scale.
Alex lives on a farm on the South Downs, growing vegetables and following the fortunes of his beloved Tottenham Hotspur
Following an international career in industry which included being the chief executive of a plc, Rowen is now a management consultant helping boards and executive teams in public, private and not-for-profit organisations with their leadership and talent agendas. He is passionate about the importance of authentic leadership and the impact unconscious leadership can have on organisations and in the communities in which they operate.
Rowen has three children, a daughter (20) and two teenage sons (15 and 17), and has been involved with abandofbrothers since 2009, initially as a mentor and then from 2013 as a trustee. He believes that if you cannot tell your story, your story tells you, and that everyone, young men and older men alike, can create a world of community and connection by better understanding who they are and what is behind the choices that they make. He has seen that the programmes we run offer men an opportunity to become more authentic and develop deeper trust-based relationships with their families and communities. By connecting young men with older men we can create a more positive society through inter-generational leadership, reducing crime, increasing social mobility and making sustainable communities.
As a young man I struggled within the school system, leaving at 16, but was very determined, had a supportive family, and was lucky enough to then spend the next 30 years forging a successful career in the commercial world.
I have two sons who are now adult men. They have a wonderful mother, and I know how important she has been in helping them develop into the great men they are today, and I have also been very struck how important is has been for them and their growth to have healthy male role models around them, particularly throughout their teenage years. It is an eternal blessing for me that whilst I have been there as their father, they have had a number of emotionally intelligent older men in their community, who have mentored many healthy elements of what it is to be a man.
It is so clear to me that in our society this has become increasingly rare, and I have no doubt if young men had older healthy male role models thought their formative lives, prisons would be less occupied, suicides would reduce, family violence would decline, and all of society would benefit.
I have witnessed in abandofbrothers extraordinary men who give their time to fill this need, and in turn receive the great rewards themselves of the mentoring process.
Rowena’s career has focused on creating and spreading more effective responses to social problems, from long term problematic drug use to food poverty, ageing societies to socially excluded children and young people, unsustainable food production to education and health inequalities. In so doing, she has played a formative role in the social innovation, entrepreneurship and investment fields, running NESTA’s Lab, the Skoll Centre at Saïd Business School, Oxford University, and the School for Social Entrepreneurs. She started her career in journalism and think tanks, and has served on numerous boards and advisory groups including People Tree (Fairtrade fashion), Britdoc, SEUK, Centrepoint and VSO.
Rowena is currently a Director at the Young Foundation.
Much of the violence and anti-social behaviour we experience personally or see in society is perpetuated by men. More hidden is the self-harm men turn in on themselves – suicide being the most common reason for death among men under 50. None of it is very appealing, and it is tempting to turn away and leave it to others to sort out or sit back in judgment.
I believe abandofbrothers is brave enough to understand a little more. And moreover, to have drawn deeply on the insights and evidence of youth and community studies and psychology to develop a powerful way to help young men help themselves. Find their purpose and a footing in a very changed world. Every young men who takes part in ABOB programmes can testify to their transformative power. We all gain.
I have joined ABOB’s board of trustees to help the charity grow, spread their services to more individuals and communities, and I hope, to foster a different public debate about men and masculinity.
Stephen Moss has 27 years consulting experience working across a range of sectors on strategic change, leadership and performance improvement projects. As an organisation development specialist he brings a focus on business outcomes, a strong background in applied psychology and experience of working on both strategy and nitty-gritty operations. Combining development and team building with focus on complex, real work issues, has been a common theme in his work. Forms of collaborative inquiry and strengths based approaches strongly inform his practice.
He started his career working in social work (He qualified with an MA in Applied Social Studies – Social Work). During that period of 12 years he was: a practitioner/manager working with young people in care; manager of Centrepoint’s original medium stay hostel for vulnerable young single homeless people; officer in charge of a LB Ealing therapeutic unit for adolescents in care and a leaving care unit; manager of a pioneering community mental health resettlement service in LB Lambeth. He has worked extensively as a consultant with ‘frontline services’ enabling service improvement and collaborative working.
The Hub Team
Nathan Roberts – Chief Executive
Nathan did a Business Studies degree at the University of Northumbria and expected to work in IT. However, he was inspired instead by his placement at the Department of Social Services in the finance department, and later at Raleigh International where he found himself supervising a building project in Ghana with a group of disenfranchised young people (a mixture from both the UK and Ghana). “I really understood how taking these young people away from their daily lives, and getting them involved in such a practical task really supported them to change in so many ways,” he says.
Nathan went on to work for Raleigh International where he oversaw million pound projects and ran training teams. “I also became interested in why female team leaders got much better results with young people than male ones. What was it about the male psychology that got in the way? I realised that I had a lot to learn in the areas of compassion and empathy.”
In 2005, Nathan was part of a group of men who had experienced profound transformation through rites of passage and men’s work. They saw the potential to support change in troubled young men and ex prisoners, and they started abandofbrothers in Brighton.
In 2011, Nathan became Chief Executive, in 2014, he was runner up in the Sunday Times Change-maker Award, and in 2015, abob received the Queen’s Award for Voluntary Service.
Nathan has a partner, Lottie and is the father to two sons, Patrick and Theo.
“My vision for abob is that there will be a community of men offering rites of passage training to young men in every region of the UK. And later internationally.”
Hugh Newton – Head of Education and Training
I am deeply committed to encouraging all of us, including myself, to be our true eternal selves.
What does this mean to me?
This means that I seek to encourage us to know ourselves. As a child I learned how to cope in the world. I developed strategies to protect myself from hurt and pain, and strategies to be successful. These strategies became my unconscious program, a program which then ran me as an adult. If I know myself, then I know my childhood programming and conditioning. Knowing myself I can then behave out of informed adult choice rather than out of this conditioning.
I came to self-development work because I needed to heal my childhood trauma. I grew up in the Rhodesian War, which left me with numerous symptoms of post traumatic stress disorder. I managed to cope with the symptoms by suppressing, ignoring and overriding them. In 1997 I came across rites of passage work, completing my own process. During this weekend I turned to face my traumatic childhood and deal with it, rather than run away from it as I had been doing. Since then I have continued my deep inner healing work, and, as I have come to know, heal and integrate myself I have sought to pass this gift onto others.
For much of my working career I have been promoting all things African. I import African musical instruments and crafts into the UK, and for many years ran a stall at festivals promoting African music. I built a Eco-Tourist Guest House (Meet Me There ) on the coast of Ghana with the intention of introducing people to traditional rural African life and community. I have now donated this beautiful guest house to a wonderful NGO called Dream Big Ghana which strives to improve life and reduce poverty in rural Africa.
Following my deep love for the Earth and its creatures I also run a program which seeks to protect turtles and other wildlife in this part of Africa (Ghana Turtles).
In April 2015 I started working with A Band of Brothers as Head of Education and Training. I am deeply passionate about this work which is making a considerable contribution to the health of our society.
After studying mathematics, Rob’s working life began as a professional musician, followed by an entrepreneurial period in furniture manufacture and retail.
After meeting his now wife, Diana, he moved to London and his career moved into national charity, ultimately as Head of Fundraising Strategy at NSPCC. Rob has also worked extensively with the Institute of Fundraising to improve understanding of fundraising throughout the charity sector.
Following a year spent travelling the world, Diana and Rob have returned to Brighton and Rob now consults with charities and other ‘not-for-profit’ bodies to support their funding strategy.
“Abandofbrothers are doing something very powerful and very important; the positive effect on the young men’s lives and the lives of their families really inspires me to help make this remarkable organisation successful.”
Outside of work, Rob is a fitness enthusiast and continues to play piano and guitar as a hobby.
Dan Hartley Head of Operations
Dan joined abandofbrothers in 2008 and was influential in initiating the first ‘Quest’ training for young men. With over 10 years experience of frontline youth work, within the Youth Justice sector in London and Sussex, Dan continues to play a key role in the growth and development of the Charity.
“For me, discovering abandofbrothers felt like the missing piece in a jigsaw. It sounds obvious now but, prior to my involvement, I’d never realised how lucky I was to have mentors in my life. I’d also never really acknowledged how vital it is for young men to have older men around them when making the transition to adulthood. Men who can support and challenge them, men who can draw out their unique gifts, whilst also being real and modelling what mature and responsible masculinity looks like.”
To date, Dan has worked with hundreds of men, young people and families, from a diverse range of cultures and backgrounds. Time and again he’s witnessed how destructive and anti-social behaviour is an inevitable consequence of unresolved hurts and an often tough and heart-breaking back-story.
He’s clear that, in order to break this cycle of offending and violence, we have to model something different. Dan believes it’s imperative now we attend to the inter-generational wounds, the mistrust and the sense of disconnection and powerlessness that’s rife within large sections of our society.
“For me, it’s not rocket science. When a young man feels valued, has his basic needs met, feels part of a community and connected to a sense of purpose, the desire or temptation to get involved in crime naturally subsides. Instead, what we see emerge is a healthy sense of self-worth, positive aspiration and a desire to make a meaningful contribution in the world”.
As someone who is passionate about creating a safer, more inclusive society, Dan sees abandofbrothers as the perfect vehicle for sustainable change that could positively impact the lives of thousands of men and families globally, ultimately re-defining the term ‘community action’.
Outside of abandofbrothers, Dan enjoys travelling and photography. He currently lives in Sussex with his wife and two children and feels incredibly blessed to have their support, patience and love on this remarkable journey.